I Was Wrong - But It'll Be Okay - Update on L.

I just KNEW something was amiss. People often have tells. He did. We had a great day yesterday. And night and morning today. Then (AFTER all my posts), we were about to leave for our day out. I saw a card on my chair on top of some other papers of his. I honestly thought *I'd* sent it to him. So I picked it up, to look at it and remind myself. (And thinking how sweet that it had fallen out of his bag). It said, "L. Happy Birthday! And I'm so glad I'll get to celebrate it with you! XO E." (a woman's name). I said, "Who's this?" He came over, saw, said, "What? Oh, no one. I don't know." "You don't know?" "Some woman. I don't know." On and on. He grabbed the card back and I couldn't get it back from him. On and on. We did get in the car, but I had told him this needed to be straightened out. In driveway, I said, "If you're not comfortable discussing this in the car, we need to not start it. (the car). Because we WILL discuss this. Blah blah whole way up I was saying, "Tell me the truth." And he was doing all this bullshit. Finally, story came that, She was a former friend, not girlfriend, who moved away a year ago and has just moved back and called him and they chatted how are you kind of stuff and when it was mentioned that his birthday was coming, she said, oh, we'll have to get together, and NOT MEANING IT, but the way people just say, I said, "Oh yeah, maybe." "And for that she sent you this card?" "I guess so, yeah." "That's strange." "I think she always sort of liked me." "Then you shouldn't have led her on." . . . Lynn: "Something's missing." L: NO. Nothing's missing." . . . I said to him, in the car, "I can get over a lot of things. But if you lie to me now, I will never speak to you again. I don't do lies." I was really clear about this. We got to the major mall where we were going, to do lots of fun things. I could not feel right about this. So we sat on a bench and I asked him. Tell me the truth. What is this about? He has said there was one ticket; he went alone; he ate alone at the restaurant... This couldn't be about that. So why did he let this OTHER woman think she was going to be seeing him regarding his birthday. And why had he not told her about me? And when was he planning to see her? He swore that of course he wasn't... I kept saying how sending that card didn't make sense. And how maybe he let it slip so I WOULD find it... No. No. No. Part II coming.